The Power of Pleasure
A woman's pleasure is as powerful and intoxicating
as any force on earth. You may not yet feel it, but
within you is a wellspring of vitality that can transform
your sexual pleasure and illuminate your life. We often
think of sex as separate from the rest of our lives,
but nothing could be further from the truth. Our sexual
life mirrors our general health, our relationships,
and our emotional well-being at the deepest level. It
is certainly true that who we are and what we have experienced
affects our sexuality, but it is also true that making
changes in our sexual lives can transform the other
parts of our lives, including our relationships.
Taoism, an ancient Chinese system of healing and spirituality,
has always understood the fact that sexuality is an
integral part of our health and wellness. The ancient
Taoist physicians would ask about desire and sexual
activity as a routine part of assessing one's health.
They might even prescribe lovemaking at certain times
of day or in certain positions to treat illnesses. In
this book, Mantak Chia and I will combine this Taoist
knowledge with insights from modern medicine to offer
an effective program that will kindle your desire and
magnify your sexual pleasure.
As a holistic physician, I am committed to offering
the best of traditional and complementary medicines
to address the issues that are most pressing in women's
lives. I have repeatedly seen that a woman's overall
health and well-being is dramatically affected by the
quality and frequency of her sexual experiences. And
sadly, too many women are not experiencing the pleasure
and sexual satisfaction that they need and deserve.
According to surveys, one-third of all women in the
United States have never had an orgasm, another one-third
are not regularly orgasmic, and even fewer women, only
one in five, are multi-orgasmic.
Some of us experience our most profound joy, connectedness,
and spiritual oneness during lovemaking. Many of us
may have had only rare glimpses of what is possible
in intimate sexual union. And still others of us may
have been blocked from claiming our full sexual potential
by painful sexual experiences. This book will lead you
on your own personal journey to discover your sexual
power and pleasure, and it will show you how to use
this power to transform your life.
In chapter 1, you will develop a "Personal Sexual
Satisfaction Plan" that will help you to focus
on the chapters, techniques, and exercises that will
be of greatest help to you. In chapters 2 and 3, you
will learn to cultivate your desire and balance your
energy. In chapters 4 and 5, you will discover what
prevents you from having the full pleasure of your orgasms
and learn the best techniques for you to orgasm easily--and
often. In chapters 6 and 7, I will show you how to expand
these orgasms into whole-body orgasms and to extend
them with your breathing into longer and more intense
multiple orgasms. Finally, in chapters 8 and 9, I will
help you to maintain your sexual health and healing
over the course of your life and show you how you can
begin to use it for your emotional and spiritual growth.
Cultivating your multi-orgasmic ability requires that
we explore your sexual energy and your pleasure anatomy.
By "sexual energy," I simply mean your desire,
your passion, or your libido, as doctors sometimes say.
The more sexual energy or desire that you have, the
easier it will be for you to orgasm. The Taoists see
sexual energy as the most powerful source of our overall
vital energy, or <I>chi<$>, which is responsible
for our health and livelihood. If your energy is being
drained by demanding work, family responsibilities,
financial stress, ill health, or addictions, it will
be harder for you to have the sexual energy you need
for satisfying lovemaking.
Not only does low sexual energy make it harder to orgasm,
it makes it less likely that you will even want to have
sex. A recent in-depth study determined that the number
one reason that couples don't have sex is fatigue. This
is certainly the case for the women who come to my medical
practice. In part due to their physical and emotional
exhaustion, many of these women are less interested
in sex and when they are, they cannot orgasm regularly
or at all. The Taoist practices that Mantak Chia and
I will teach throughout this book will teach you how
to draw energy and inspiration from the desire within
your own body.
As an expert on the various medical and complementary
options available, I can say that Taoist sexual practices,
called Healing Love, are uniquely able to help women
with low energy and low libido to have satisfying multi-orgasmic
lovemaking and to increase their overall vitality. Carol,
a 44-year-old nurse from Pittsburgh, explained her experience:
"I began doing the Healing Love practice several
months ago, and I can't remember the last time I felt
so alive! I feel so sensual, womanly, and juicy. Even
my friends have noticed that my color looks better.
I have rosy cheeks!" For women who already have
high levels of sexual energy, the Healing Love practices
will help them to channel this energy and to access
it when and how they like as a source of vitality in
all aspects of their lives.
But while Healing Love sees orgasm as an important
source of joy, energy, and health for women, it does
not minimize or in any way overlook the rest of your
sexual experience. The Healing Love practices offered
here will allow you to enjoy your pleasure before, during,
and after orgasm. As you'll see, orgasm is not the goal
of sex. It is simply one of the highlights on a journey
of personal pleasure and discovery.
Another part of this journey to sexual satisfaction
involves exploring your "pleasure anatomy"--that
is, your body's particular sensual response pattern--and
learning what arouses you. In chapters 4 through 7,
I will show you how to intensify your sexual enjoyment
all along the way to orgasm and from crescendo to crescendo.
You will discover what your unique "hot spots"
are and use the latest--and some of the oldest--techniques
from both Western and Eastern traditions to guide you
in your pleasure. Whatever your current experience with
orgasm--whether never having had one to already being
multi-orgasmic--the techniques and exercises throughout
this book will help you to enjoy the ever greater bliss
in your body that is your birthright.
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